Yesterday I decided to get closer to the readers of my blog. I did so by engaging into the activity which at least some of you have been doing (and maybe are still doing) for a while – browsing the profiles of Chinese girls on dating sites.
Wow! That was really interesting. And possibly it will give me some material not only for this but also for few upcoming articles. In this post I want to share my observations related to the way in which Chinese girls describe themselves in the appropriate section of their profiles.
First of all I registered my profile on one of the dating sites. Then I had to imitate the way in which male members search through women’s profiles. Since it’s impossible to embrace all preferences that men have, I decided to perform 6 separate searches – each for a different age group of Chinese females: 18-22 (generation of nineties), 23-28 (generation of eighties), 29-34 (infamous “sheng nu”), 35-40, 41-50 and 50+. For all of them I read only the profiles written in English of females who have a photograph, live in China and are unpaid members.
There are two tendencies to which I paid attention when proceeding from the profiles of younger girls to the older ones. First is quite understandable: there is a bigger proportion of paid memberships in the older group. Second is less obvious but also very natural: the older the ladies – the more descriptive and detailed their profiles are. So, let’s see what characterizes the profiles of each age group.
18 – 22 years old
It seems that Chinese girls in this age group participate in the competition of whose profile is shorter. It doesn’t need to be even one sentence length. In many cases it’s enough to describe yourself with “Hi” or just “hehe”. Those girls who don’t save on words often use an adjective “happy” beginning the self-description with “I am a happy girl”. Thus, I will tag this age group as a category of happy girls :-)
Another interesting thing is related to English language. One girl said “I am mahor in English in a university”. And another is pursuing “makor” in the same field. But even if some Chinese girls don’t know English – communication is still possible as you can learn from the following profile: “My English is bad as I think , but my Chinese is good”…
23 – 28 years old
These profiles are quite interesting and descriptive. Among the more often used adjectives are “nice”, “sincere”, “open-minded” and “traditional”. The latter two often go together in the same sentence: seems that for Chinese girls who know that their profiles will be read by Western men, this is the way to say that they are good girls.
Generally speaking, girls in this age group seem to be more serious. But though most of them check the option of “marriage” in the field of “seeking for”, they (differently from the older women) usually refrain from mentioning an intention to find a husband in the profiles themselves.
Although less than in the previous category – also here one can find descriptions with different mistakes caused by automatic translators. And though I can understand usage of such tools for online communication in case of language difficulties, it is hardly advisable as means to create profiles. Take, for example, a real profile consisting of three words only – “docile, banality, sincerity”…
29 – 34 years old
Obviously previous years haven’t been spent in vain. Most girls have learned to cook! At least mentioning the ability and sometimes even affection of cooking is a stunning difference between the profiles of this and previous groups. By the way, in the picture below you can see hot-pot which I cooked today for my own birthday :-) .
Another outstanding feature is that girls of this age group very often mention the fact that they don’t want games and ask players to stay away from them – possibly these women serve as the main target of men with dubious intentions. No wonder that the profile of one girl opens with the following words: “First talk about sex no way, cam sex noo way, one night stand nooooo way, PLZ GO AWAY”.
One very touching profile must be noticed by all men who fall victims to photo-shopped pictures :
First I want to say the photo I put on my profile is my most recent photos and they were taken this month. I viewed here and found a lot of very nice photos make by studio, I have to say that they are very beautiful, may be my photos are not as fancy as they do, but it show the real me, and hope you will like my picture too.
And the last lesson I learned. Do you actually know why some Chinese girls look for their Mr. Right? Here is the answer:
I want travel around the world , a happy family, a lovely kid and a lovely dog, of course, before that I have to find my Mr Right.
35 – 40 years old:
Starting from here I have no reasons to be sarcastic. Chinese ladies of this and older age seem to be… normal. I don’t know what the reason is. Maybe they are just more mature, or maybe there is indeed mentality difference between generations? Anyway, if I would have to choose one word to describe the women of this group – it would be “romantic”.
Actually, many of them mention this word when describing themselves. And somehow they succeed to create a nice (and warm) impression without using picturesque and advertisement-like words.
Also it is notable that the profiles of women of this age are less self-centered. On the other hand some are putting too much accent on the fact that they are single mothers by writing a lot about their children.
41 – 50 years old:
Keeping the general tendency profiles become longer. You can feel that they are written by women who know some things about life and would cherish a family with a man of their choice. “Down-to-earth” is the most often used adjective in their profiles.
I might be wrong but I got an impression that some of the profiles haven’t been written by the women themselves. I guess that it could be done by some translators or agency. Actually, there is nothing bad about it but – if this is true – you must be ready to face certain communication difficulties because of the language barrier. One of “suspicious” indicators for such profiles is the opening sentence similar to this: “XXX is my hometown. It is located in south-eastern China…”
50 years plus:
I am sorry in advance to put a wide range of ages into the last group. This is not because of my ageist attitude but because of much smaller number of profiles in this category.
Often these women have been single for quite a long time but when their children have grown up and left the parental home, they want to give another try to find their happiness and spend the life with a good man.
I have a son who grew up is proud. Therefore, I walked into my life’s autumn, in this time, I want a sincere love!
I found one profile which was rather awkward but reading it wasn’t funny at all. On the contrary, it made me sad. Woman described multiple achievements of her life (and frankly speaking they were quite impressive) in excessive style which would fit more a resume than profile on a dating site. Then she wrote that she is longing for love, and in the end – as if she felt that her description is lacking a real emotion, but being unable to change the lines above – she just concluded: “please contact me. Please…”
And here are two questions to the readers who have experience with Chinese dating sites. First – do you read girl’s profile before sending an interest/winking/starting a chat or do you click just after seeing a picture? Second – what kind of profiles make you want to get acquainted with a girl?
Having a profile on dating site (for research purposes only!), Crystal Tao