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What kind of men do Chinese girls like?


Chinese girls dreaming

Let’s suppose that you befriended a Chinese girl. Leaving a good first impression is not enough. If you want to build a long-term relationship, you should know what personal characteristics are most important in her eyes.

As a kind of disclaimer I’d like to state that I am talking about common Chinese girls living in mainland China

I cannot guarantee for all Chinese girls, but most of us are simple and frank and don’t hide anything behind a smile. As I mentioned in one of previous articles – Don’t make these mistakes with Chinese girls – Chinese girls hate being cheated. Thus a basic merit – is to be honest and sincere.

Be a man of your word. If you made a promise – keep it. No matter how insignificant the promise is in your eyes, don’t break or ignore it. If you constantly break little promises – you will leave an impression of unreliable person. Keep doing so and one day you will find it’s too late to regret.

Be ambitious! Many people note that Chinese girls are very practical. Please – don’t confuse it with greediness. We don’t need you to be rich. But you must have ambitions.

In one forum I read comment of a girl who stated that she likes successful men not because of what they HAVE, but because of their mindset – that same mindset that made them successful.

Caution! Ambitious is not the same as arrogant.

Be filial. Chinese tradition values the filial piety above many other virtues. Thus – pay attention to the way in which you talk about your parents, and respect the girl’s family as well.

Maybe you paid attention that I didn’t advise you to be romantic and sweet. Though the famous saying states that women love with ears – I would urge to let the actions talk about your care and love instead of words.

I hope that you find this reading helpful. Wish you good luck and happiness.

Sincerely yours, Crystal Tao

  • melanie gao

    Love your perspective Crystal. Thanks for sharing these thoughts!

  • Kari

    I would say that Chinese girls are most ambitious looking girls what i have seen. And usually it means more that a mindset.
    I support equality but i can see mostly fishers.
    Honesly would like to hear more other views :)

    • Crystal

      Well… I don’t know if Chinese girls are MOST ambitious, but we are definitely far from a stereotype of subservient Asian girls.
      However, let’s indeed wait for “other” views :cool:

  • Mike_In_Zhengzhou

    China is famous for being the #1 country for one night stands. I would think a strong sense of monogamy would be the 1st trait a Chinese girl would want in a man.

    • Crystal

      Absolutely agree!!!

  • john

    I’m not sure that most Chinese girls would recognise honesty and sincerity.

  • Cap’n Rad

    Some are very VERY ambitious. Meet some Shanghai girls sometime. But so are most women!

  • paulk

    i agree my chinese wife nothing more important than loyalty she has had her heart broken by one cheating man in her life !!!

    the next thing is a family of her own to look after that is her dream !!!!

    i am not even close to being rich !!! she respects me because i am smart and i was constantly going around her home and mama and papas home fixing things like dripping taps and plugged sinks !!!

    her and her family were so happy most of it i could do with my little multi tool set i always carry in my pocket !!!! for me it was nothing !!!

    my wife made me feel very valuable like i just gave her a cadillac !!!! hehehe

    i found out it does not take much to impress chinese people and earn their respect !!!

    especially my wifes respect !!!!

    • Zzz

       Why so many exclamation marks? 

  • Alain1976

    It’s all rather complicated isn’t it?

    Can see why many chinese men make do with sex dolls now!lol…

  • Eric Perez

    I can’t believe I’m even reading this

  • sultan

    I like chinese bussy

  • Jolly

    Crystal – Whatever you are telling here is just what you like as a chinese girl, not what all other people should do. I know how chinese girls are. They are the most greediest species i have encounter in my life. I am a foreigner. I have many chinese girl friends. All of them say only talk about onething with me…how is your country. i want to go there. we can get married soon. Stupid isnt it. So stop giving this useless personal opinion. If you thing you are right than you are probably retarted

  • Fuking rediculous

    As Jolly couldnt have said it better himself, and think twice before you think you can outsmart a chinese girl hahah, Jolly got a email id love to chat up with fellow expats anytme ;)

  • nocturno

    A single word: MONEY.
    Everything else is just ‘extra’.
    Don’t waste your time thinking on ‘human values’ (which Neoliberalism has destroyed in China, as in much of the world already).

  • John

    Yep. The chinese women, young or old is all about money. Their God.

  • lived in china since the 90s

    It is very Chinese to have no honest perspective about one self. you are shallow, it is your culture, there are plenty of shallow people elsewhere and they hide it. Don’t hide it, you most certainly do not mean ambitious, you mean that if he has no money now, he will make money in the future. if his ambition was to excel in a field that does not make money, you would leave him. I am not saying this is bad or good. In fact it might just be more honest. just as you know, and accept, but only very rarely admit to accepting, that he ALSO looks at your earning potential (this is what you mean by ambition) and that he also marries you for practical reasons and that is why he goes to pay for sex. Oh and then you say “that is only for old men, forigners” or the very funny “he is too poor for hookers”.
    Forgetting that china is the land prostitution is perhaps the most widespread and accept in the world, both currently and historically, despite a little break under mao. and he had to kill a few dozens of millions to make you people shape up.
    or rather, shape “down”, as prostitutes are the most honest of all woman, anywhere, so let this not be seen as put down on empowered women who help make relationships and marriages in china possible in the first place.
    You also do not mean many little promises. you mean that YOU think he promised something, when in fact he did not.
    this may apply only to cross language scenarios. but saying that “oh look Lagerfeld is on tv” does not mean you were promised a chanel product.
    oh and of course Chinese woman cheat left and right as well, so really you are quite a open sub Saharan type anything goes society.
    so why not be proud of that?

  • Olihtx

    Chinese girl no care what you do or think about her, anyway she will do whatever she want

  • papa

    you are a complete prick.