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Not really Amy Chua parenting style
May 8, 2011
8:48 am
Crystal
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Chinese parents are strict. 

At least this is what everyone knows after reading Any Chua's famous manifesto.

But there are different ways to be strict.

In the pictures below you can see how Chinese dad is dealing with his son who stole money to play in internet-bar:

 

 

 

Source: http://bbs.tiexue.net/post_5057209_1.html

May 8, 2011
9:32 am
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WOW !! This would get him arrested for child abuse in the UK, and probably for child sex offences as well.

 

On the other hand, if that child steals money for the internet cafe and, it means he has a REAL addiction problem.

May 8, 2011
9:52 am
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I applaud his decision to discipline his son, however this is a bit extreme.

 

I've never understood how people in a country obsessed with face could be so willing to take disagreements out on the street so publicly.

 

He shouldn't have stripped his kid in the streets cause it's obviously public nudity and breaks obscenity laws.

 

I have no problem with some corporal punishment provided it's limited and there's no weapons used (belts, switches, rulers, etc.).

As for a bit of humiliation, I happen to be a fan of "creatively appropriate punishment". Standing outside of some place with a sandwich board saying you shoplifted there or a street corner saying you abuse animals etc. is awesome.

 

Willing to bet that kid has either lost his addiction to internet games, or he'll run away and be a petty criminal anyways… 

 

Fork in the road

May 9, 2011
2:21 am
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I understand that internet addiction is a massive problem with young males in China.  Although I think it is pretty harsh it might be effective, although as the boy grows it will be harder to do and it could create personality development issues.

 

My own daughter is such a well behaved child that I can never have another as there is no way I would be that lucky twice!

May 9, 2011
3:56 am
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Bored in Melbourne said:

My own daughter is such a well behaved child that I can never have another as there is no way I would be that lucky twice!

That's why Amy Chua has two daughters. To create a healthy competition between the girls! Laugh

May 9, 2011
4:25 am
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There's nothing like some good ol' fashioned sibling rivalry. Especially when you have 4 older brothers. Everybody tries to outdo each other. That's how you make successful children! Laugh

"Ally" is my girl if you didn't know.
May 9, 2011
8:22 am
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Crystal said:

Bored in Melbourne said:

My own daughter is such a well behaved child that I can never have another as there is no way I would be that lucky twice!

That's why Amy Chua has two daughters. To create a healthy competition between the girls! Laugh

Well, Crystal you are the only one here in a position to judge (via my facebook images), why would I want to take the risk?  Besides she already had other siblings (plenty of them) from her step father and mother's new family.  I figure that it is OK if she just stays Daddy's little girl for the other side of her life.

May 9, 2011
10:27 am
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Yes because creating jealousy, competition and inevitable bitterness between your children is obviously great parenting….

 

Another reason I support needing a license to be a parent, seriously.

 

Back on topic, even that horrible abusive woman Amy Chua said that she doesn't advise anyone to follow her example (although that could be just a disclaimer for legal purposes aka covering her -beep- cause her parenting is total abuse) 

 

Giving a good spank on the -beep- a few times is extremely effective when used properly and sparingly, but totally leaving positive reinforcement out intentional mental and emotional abuse. 

 

Trust me, I know what it's like to grow up in an extremely abusive home with loveless unstable mother.

 

Don't believe for a second that this method of parenting is positive at all.

 

Cheers!

May 9, 2011
11:53 am
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Elijah said:

 
Giving a good spank on the -beep- a few times is extremely effective when used properly and sparingly, but totally leaving positive reinforcement out intentional mental and emotional abuse. 

 

Is that too much information from you again Elijah?Cool

May 9, 2011
12:06 pm
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Bored in Melbourne said:

Well, Crystal you are the only one here in a position to judge (via my facebook images), why would I want to take the risk?  Besides she already had other siblings (plenty of them) from her step father and mother's new family.  I figure that it is OK if she just stays Daddy's little girl for the other side of her life.

Yes, I saw your daughter.

She is very nice girl and I understand why you are protective of her.

May 9, 2011
1:20 pm
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Bored in Melbourne said:

Elijah said:

 
Giving a good spank on the -beep- a few times is extremely effective when used properly and sparingly, but totally leaving positive reinforcement out intentional mental and emotional abuse. 

 

Is that too much information from you again Elijah?Cool

Oh naughty little boy….

 

Someone needs to punish you… NOT ME!!!

 

Hahahaha, kidding, I'll do it for a fee….

 

I sometimes put in too much info, but that's cause the only social skills I learned were scrawled on a cave wall and then through the internet when the cave got hooked up….

 

These threads have a way of seriously derailing don't they?

 

Thanks for the train-wrecks Crystal, can't look away.

January 11, 2012
12:13 am
Andre M. Smith
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Why is the art of music required to endure the ill-informed antics of such inartistic imbeciles as Amy Chua? Her lust for fame as an old-fashioned stage mother of either a famous violinist (yet another mechanical Sarah Chang?) or a famous pianist (yet another mechanical Lang Lang?) shines through what she perceives as devotion to the cultivation of the cultural sensitivities of her two unfortunate daughters.

Daughter Lulu at age 7 is unable to play compound rhythms from Jacques Ibert with both hands coordinated? Leonard Bernstein couldn’t conduct this at age 50! And he isn’t the only musician of achievement with this-or-that shortcoming. We all have our closets with doors that are not always fully opened.

And why all this Chinese obsession unthinkingly dumped on violin and piano? What do the parents with such insistence know of violin and piano repertoire? Further, what do they know of the great body of literature for flute? For French horn? For organ? For trumpet? Usually, nothing!

For pressure-driven (not professionally-driven!) parents like Amy Chua their children, with few exceptions, will remain little more than mechanical sidebars to the core of classical music as it’s practiced by musicians with a humanistic foundation.

Professor Chua better be socking away a hefty psychoreserve fund in preparation for the care and feeding of her two little lambs once it becomes clear to them both just how empty and ill-defined with pseudo-thorough grounding their emphasis has been on so-called achievement.

Read more about this widespread, continuing problem in Forbidden Childhood (N.Y., 1957) by Ruth Slenczynska.
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André M. Smith, Bach Mus, Mas Sci (Juilliard)
Formerly Bass Trombonist
The Metropolitan Opera Orchestra of New York,
Leopold Stokowski’s American Symphony Orchestra (Carnegie Hall),
The Juilliard Orchestra, Aspen Festival Orchestra, etc.

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