Firstly this website is really excellent…

I'm friends with this Chinese guy. There is a definite spark and I think he likes me. He's made a good effort with getting to know me. We are both in Beijing and we used to work in the same department.

I discovered recently that he's leaving China to another Asian country for a really good work opportunity. I know career is important to Chinese men in their late twenties. Although since he's been preparing to go he's been quieter and more distant with me. Before Christmas he made a real point of saying the he is definitely coming back.

He's going soon. What shall I do? Shall I tell him that I like him or not contact him and leave him be? I'm so confused. I want to show that I support him and would obviously like to say goodbye. I'm unsure whether he has feelings for me.

Last week our spring festival gala on Friday he came up on stage and gave me a hug and a flower when I sang on stage! Very unexpected considering how shy he is!!

I've seen him twice this week and he actually doesn't know his exact start date so it explains why he can't get organised.

A few days ago he asked me how long I plan to stay in China and if I'm doing another year in Beijing. I see this as a good sign that he's interested in my future plans.

I said to him we should see each other before you go and he said he would call me when he knows his schedule. I suggested we go out last week abd he said he's really busy sorting out his new job, etc.

I think I will focus on the friendship and maybe suggest an interest in visiting him. What do you think? Or do you think I should declare my true feelings before he goes? I don't want to scare him away but at that same time I want him to know that I am sincerely interested.

Your insight would be helpful. Thanks