Some background information. I am a second year graduate student and she is a first year. She just moved to america from China, I am 25 she is 21. We met online emailed for a while, exchanged phone numbers and had our first date last night. We both seperately reffered to it as a date as well. Okay.
So due to orientation stuff she was busy during the day and got home late texting me that we might have to wait until tomorrow. I suggested getting coffee and she agreed giving me her adress and I came and picked her up. In prior emails she had asked me what type of relationship I was looking for to which I replied "I'm not sure exactly, just dating at the moment but I'm always open to something more should it arise" I mention this because in the car she said, "Im always looking for a relationship." So, we went to the coffee place and she mentioned loving the bar scene so I suggested going to a bar I knew and she readily agreed. At the bar I got her to try hookah, which she really really enjoyed, but I had to tell her it was ok to sit next to me not across from me (cultural?).
Throughout the night eye contact was rare and she seemed to look straight ahead most of the time. We talked alot, he date was approx. 3 hours and during it she asked for and added my facebook profile. There was no hand holding and she even remarked about two other people making out as being a crude thing to do in public. When I dropped her off at her apartment she said she'd invite me in but she had no furniture (which is true I could see through her blinds, she just moved here 3 days ago). There was no hug or kiss (kiss being not expected) just a goodnight.
She did mention having a good time throughout and was glad I was taking her places I did b/c 1. she doesnt have a car and 2. she liked the places.
I guess I'm asking if this is normal first date acting, or if its indicating that there isn't more than a friendship thing at stake. I just have never dated anyone from China before so I don't want to assume anything. She did mention that she'd like to see my apartment but she has an early meeting with a professor tomrrow so perhaps another time too.
Thank you in advance.
I forgot to mention she insisted on paying me back for her drink and coffee, 5 dollars total. She said it was traditional that Americans split the check on dates. I told her not to worry about it but wouldn't accept her money back.
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