In one of the posts that Bonita wrote 3 years ago she tells about the meeting with her girl friend whom she calls Actress (because that girl is employed as an actress).

Actress wanted to find a boyfriend. Almost desperately. And it triggered in Bonita the following line of thoughts which I found very interesting and want to share with you:

You CANNOT make a guy like you. However, you can make yourself a woman who deserves to be liked and loved, and you do this by acting as if you deserve nothing but the best.

Last night, when I was talking to my friend, I looked at her to say that at present, she’s willing to settle for ANYTHING that comes her way. Even though it doesn’t go up to her standard. That’s how much she wants to have a boyfriend. That’s how desperate she wishes to be in a relationship.

However, imagine that you meet someone like the Actress. And her mindset is that she is willing to take any Tom, -beep- and Harry in order to be with someone. It’s like a guy who comes up to me in a bar and slurringly make me an offer I’ve always refused. “Baby, you are just like any hole in this damn -beep- bar,” he’d tell me in more polite people-talk. “But hopefully, you’re the hole who would go home with me and -beep- my brains out.”

If that’s the case, do you think I’d do that? And if I did, then what sort of self-respect do I have left?

My men share something in common: they are picky.

So, this is the recipe from Bonita. Be picky!

Source: Settle? -beep- no!

I would agree but some women take it too far. There's a family friend we have. She thinks she's fantastic. She's only dated a few men in her entire life but broke up with them because they didn't live up to her standards. In fact, she just has a -beep- personality. Now she's 42 (Ultimate Sheng Nu Master) and no boyfriend. Now her once good looks have faded away. She used to be an 8 or so and now she's dropped down to a 5. But I'm sure she can find a man who appreciates her personality. Right? Riiiiigggghhht?