I am not out to shag anything that moves. I genuinely want a good Chinese girl to become my girl friend.

I do not live in Shanghai. I live in a smaller tier 3/4 city. I have not been able to become friends with the locals for reasons that are beyond me. Perhaps they are too traditional. This girl that I would like to take the next step with is from a different city.

Her. 26 yrs old. Art teacher. Super cool. Has an design degree. We communicate no problem. We have known each other a couple months. Been on several dates. Have lot's in common. We both like design, art, photography etc.

I get the impression that she can't find a Chinese guy. Perhaps she doesn't get along with them? I'm not sure. It seems as such. She can speak a little English, it's cute. I'm sure it would get better if we started a relationship. But again, I can speak Chinese so it's all good.

Her family seems super rad. At least from what I can tell. I've seen some photos and they are always smiling. She also is always smiling. She loves kids. I have been around her and kids at the same time and have shown her that I too love kids. I really do, I wasn't putting on a show, but I did know that she would be watching. She's open to other things. She doesn't just sit in front of a f*king tv all day and whine about going outside in the rain. She asks me questions seems interested in me. I say this because I've talked to my fair share of girls here in China and I feel like this one could be a keeper. I've talked to many of girls that were more boring than a red brick wall. She isn't. I am actually interested in her.

Her family seems open to the idea. I talked to her over the new year in English at her home with people in the back ground. She's talked to me since, so I assume she didn't get the "no" from the big bosses.

All and all I really like her. She is different from other mostly normal Chinese girls. She's mature, grown up, and open. Not in a "open leg" sort of way. She was nervous when we first met but wasn't closed and not talking.

So, my question is, how to I seal this deal? Are schedules are a little bit of a hassle. She always says yes to meeting me. She ditched a work party to hang before the new year. She is very polite. I don't want to let her drift away or whatever you want to call it.

I've haven't been in many serious relationships with Chinese girls. I'm not sure of what makes them tick. So far everything has been going good. Perhaps someone has some suggestions.

Yes I know this is a internet forum, but, when you live in butt fu*k nowhere and see 3 whites maybe every six months you don't have many people to talk to. So that is why I come here and ask. I only ask you keep it to honest advice.

So far I have a few options.

One: keep just dating her like I am. Once or twice a week go out and eat dinner, talk, etc. Until she wants me to make a move and I blow it because I am too conservative.

Two: I speed it up. Take her out and say I like her, see where it goes, then possible get busted for being the White guy that moves too fast.

Obviously there two options pertain to just about every culture. I had one girl that did just about everything that this girl has done but didn't want a boyfriend. But on the other hand, I've had other girls that didn't do all of this that couldn't not try to be my girlfriend. Both in China.

So, any advice, tips, signs, perhaps anything else that I might use to decipher what she wants, would be met with great appreciation.

I just got back from a trip to Europe and I have a few gifts that I would like to give her. Also a pretty good time to implement a suggestion or two.

Thank you.