The following post was sent to us by a lovely Chinese girl who lives in Shanghai. She is in her late 20s, enjoys a successful career with an international brand company, has traveled the world and is perhaps typical of the “modern Chinese girl” :
I’m often asked by my foreign friend what I think of when I see that a Chinese girl has a foreigner boyfriend or husband. I usually reply that it seems normal to me.
I posed the same question to my colleagues and the way they see it – those Chinese girls must have a purpose. One possible purpose is that they would like to move to live abroad, another is that they’re possibly after money or status, or perhaps they would like to show their openness and individuality to society. Some girls like to joke about wanting a mixed blood baby.
Honestly, I believe 90% of Chinese people think that way. Especially the more traditional Chinese.
My nephew said, most Chinese men who see a Chinese girl with a foreigner think she is a slut, likes to sleep around with foreigners. When Chinese guys talk like that, they’re usually very upset. I remember reading some comments on the Chinese Internet, with many Chinese men saying lots of bad words to Chinese girls who have western boyfriends.
I don’t know why Chinese men hate Chinese girls who have foreign boyfriend. Are they jealous? Are they experiencing feelings of inferiority about being shorter and less physically strong? I still don’t understand why. One funny thing is that when they see a Chinese man with a western woman, they tend to think that’s very cool. They are very happy to see Chinese men conquer western women. I find that odd.
Now I understand why my former Shanghai female colleague who was seeing a German guy didn’t answer my question about the origin of her boyfriend straight away. She explained to me that she was afraid that people would judge her. She’s now married, has baby girls, and she seems very happy with her German husband.
Maybe my colleagues are still living in the dark times of the previous century, maybe they are from countryside, but I can simply say that they have nothing in common with me. We are like 2 types of people living in two separate worlds.
She would love to hear your opinions on her dilemma and thoughts.