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What People Think About Shanghai Girls

大家是如何看待上海女孩的?


Vintage Poster of a "typical" Shanghai girl

Vintage Poster of a "typical" Shanghai girl

While there is little doubt about adjective one might use describing Chongqing girls (correct answer is “beautiful”) – situation is different when the discussion is switched to Shanghainese. In this article I will try to summarize the impressions of other netizens regarding Shanghai girls.

First of all it’s important to note that due to Shanghai’s greater openness to the international community its residents are best known to foreigners. Thus it’s no wonder that Shanghainese girls are more famous (and sometimes infamous) compared to their sisters from other Chinese cities.

Shanghai’s glory and fame is largely related to its status of cosmopolitan city (that peaked in 1930s, faded later and is being revived today again). It always had been the pioneer in introducing different innovations including fashion (see, for example, my previous article on the history of Chinese dress qipao).

As a result, Shanghai girls are always informed about the latest trends and know exactly what kind of life they want to lead.

Going back to the golden era of Shanghai’s history one can think of popular vintage posters with flamboyant advertisements depicting stylish and sexy ladies wearing qipao and drinking cocktails or smoking thin long cigarettes or even playing golf. Not sure if such personages were wide-spread in real life – as with any kind of advertisement – but they definitely served as a compass to a desired lifestyle.

Shanghai girls pay very close attention to their outlook and can be almost obsessive about any detail of their dressing. Their drive for popular brands is so high that they can spend an income of few months to buy a fashionable bag or other accessory. In this light it is unsurprising that a recent survey found an average woman in Shanghai to use no less than 20 different cosmetics every day, making it the top figure in the world.

Understandably the patterns of relationships between Shanghai girls and their men are very specific. Their Mr Right face very high standards. If you make a search on “Shanghai girls” in internet – sooner or later you will come across the term “zuo” which refers to a mixture of characteristics like capriciousness, coquetry, mystery.

Shanghainese wife (“shanghai taitai”) is a recognized term meaning a woman with high maintenance who is not ready to do any housework. High demands are not always met and though the first place in statistics of divorces among Chinese cities Shanghai (38%) handed to its rival Beijing (39%) – most of them were initiated by women.

One netizen comparing the traits of Beijing and Shanghai girls found that the latter are more independent and would more often go Dutch when given a bill in restaurant.

I would like to conclude with a short video that has been popular on internet. It shows a Chinese girl going nuts when her boyfriend doesn’t want to buy her a car – in the end forcing him to make a purchase. It is indicative that most commentators quickly came to conclusion that the girl is Shanghainese.

After rereading the article I feel that this review of other internet resources draws a very negative portrait of Shanghai girls. So, I invite the readers to add their comments and balance it.

Yet another netizen, Crystal Tao

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  • Annie

    hehe..that’s interesting.

  • Nicole Yu

    Well…I have some foreign friends,they have very bad impression of Shanghainese girls,but acturally I found out the girls they hang out with usually are not really from Shanghai. And I grow up in shanghai, and the shanghainese girls I knew they are very nice,might be a little Zuo, but their boyfriends and husbands are enjoy that,and also they are very sweet,fashionable,smart,independent,they are well educated, good jobs, reasonable income.I cant speak for all Shanghainese girls here, but at least I knew the girls around me are not like what foreigns thought.

  • ziccawei

    This whole idea of ‘zuo’ – That’s every woman on the planet.

    But in typical Shanghai style, Shanghainese like to think they own the right to it.

    How ‘zuo’ of them.

    :lol:

  • Arnold

    I’m married to a Shanghai Woman and would not change a thing about her . We both share everything equal from House chores , Cooking , Shopping and having Fun .

    May I invite you Crystal to my Blog and you’ll see .. she is NOT spoiled by no means , coming/born in Shanghai .

    http://www.shmifeng.blogspot.com

    Ps: I do like your Blog and thanks for sharing things I have known already and the things I didn’t .

  • http://www.lovelovechina.com Crystal

    Hi, Arnold. Your blog is a whole story.
    I never thought that men can be so romantic (even foreigners :smile:).
    On the other hand I can understand you – your wife Qing is very nice!

    As for this post, it just summarizes the widespread opinions of netizens about Shanghai girls.

  • http://goodthaigirl.com toby

    Sounds too high maintenance to me. Shanghai people do not have good reputation for being very friendly

  • http://goodthaigirl.com toby

    After watching that video I will be sure not to visit Shanghai for its ladies

  • Arnold

    Thanks Crystal for your nice comment .

    Toby , you are not talking about ALL Shanghai Girl’s are high maintenance . My wife is here in the States with me now eight month’s , she has not ask me for one Cent/Penny for anything .I would say the younger ones are more westernized , this still does not mean their all bad .
    I have made four Trips to China
    ( Shanghai,Hangzhou,Beijing,Guangzhou,HongKong,Shenzhen )and I find all the People that I have met very friendly .. did I say friendly ? I have heard that Beijing People were not very nice to foreigner’s , they proofed me wrong by a longshot . I don’t know , if you even been to China yet .. because , this is what I hear from People all around LA . China is bad , what would you want to go there ? It really sickens me to hear this . Anyway , this is my thought’s and I LOVE China and Shanghai ! I don’t call myself SH MiFeng for nothing .

  • Pete

    In defense of Shanghai girls, I’ve gotta say all the negative stereotypes can be true. But on the whole i find they are a lot of fun to be around. Who wants subservient, shy and traditional when you can have independent, sexy, firecracker!? I wouldn’t wanna change em. :cool:

    • jonnytoo@hotmail.com

      Shanghai girls are less conservative are they not and I find that Shanghai girls like other girls of various cities and provinces are more sexually active than the Western girls since the wide spread news of AIDS!?

  • Lars

    That’s the silliest thing I have seen in a long time. How can anyone demand that a partner buy a new car for them? That’s insane! Did she just buy HIM a new car, or what’s the deal here? Is she a high-class prostitute or what? Why would he buy her a car? The man is dumb if he gives in to something like that. Unless she is a prostitute, a woman who demand a man to buy expensive things for her doesn’t deserve to be with a man at all, and needs to first learn how to behave.

  • Eri

    Wow, the bf who bought the girl a car is silly. Its already crazy for those ppl to have such unreasonable demand, and even crazier that sb would actually agree on it. Well, i was born in Shanghai and lived there 15 years. I don’t know much abt girls there these days, but seems there are a lot of negative comments came across. I feel sorry to hear that some of the girls there behave very immature,they need to grow up and be more educated abt the whole world. not just the fashion and designer handbag world. i am sure its not all of them are like that.

    I suppose thats how ppl behave when its a ~new money’.
    Ppl are too overwhelmed by the fast change of their surroundings. I hope to see a clean, friendly sophisticated Shanghai soon.

  • David

    I just had a first date with a girl who is from Shanghai. And I thought she was genuine and very nice. She did say she couldn’t cook and went out to restaurants to eat. But hey I’m coming off of a long term very heavy relationship and to me this girl is like a breath of fresh air. She told me that Shanghai is like San Francisco(where we are) I think she’s right you could say that many of not most San Francisco women are high-maintainance and it would be very true. I have a good feeling about this girl I guess that is all that really counts. Crystal I would like to hear your take though.
    Thanks,
    David

  • http://LoveLoveChina Rod

    I don’t know anything about Shanghai women. My fiancee from Chengdu is very practical, thrifty with money, sweet and romantic in private, and conservative in public because this was how she was raised. So I am very happy. But I’m sure that Shanghai women are more than capable of defending themselves… Funny video!

  • Arnold

    Hahaha .. thought I throw this in ! Married to my Shanghai Flower over three years ( 22 months here in the States with me ) we are still on our Honeymoon Mode with no end in sight . I can truely hope/wish everybody looking for a meaingful Relationship finds one equally as I have found . It really doesn’t matter from where or what City/Country , Love is .. what it is ! Wonderful !!!

  • David

    Now we have had our third date today and it was totally romantic. She likes to tease me and give me a hard time then she is very tender and affectionate. I have never been so happy in a relationship! We spent 3 hours just talking in the park. So nice!

  • Loukasrb

    This man has NO dignity.  It shows that all she needs to do is whine and cry to get what she wants.  And that is a VERY unattractive trait to women of ALL races.  All men should have open boundaries and this man doesn’t (most don’t) and this women crossed it.  He needs to say goodbye!

    • http://www.facebook.com/tee.kei.73 Tee Kei

      Wholeheartedly agree. Needs to learn to grow a spine.

  • Susan

    I don’t think they are Shanghainese.Because we rarely speak Chinese like that. We often speak dialect. I wonder why many people seem to have prejudice about us Shanghai girls.

  • wael ghaith

    hello
    i will be in shanghai next month , i need a girlfriend to guide me in shanghai to go around and have fun and shopping.
    thia ia me mail , man_wg@live.com , contact me if you like to have egyptian friend :):)

  • Vicios

    all is true,i met a Shanghai girl. i went to Shanghai to meet her and she only wants clothes and money.Never love,so fuck off Shanghai girls.Bad experience here.They are so selfish and haven’t heart or any feelings

  • Naqah (Dwight)

    All Of These Blog Posts About Chinese Women Does Help A Foriegner To Understand What To Watch Out For. Every Last One Of These Blog Posts On Chinese Women Helps Me To Immediately Know That These Women Are Like Americans. I Know How To Eschew And Ignore Such Women, Whenever I Visit China I Will Have No.Desire For Any Chinese Woman; I Will Be Safe Concerning Sexual Temptations And Natural Attraction.

    NaQah (Dwight)