I am a bit embarrassed to talk about it, but writing a blog sometimes requires from me to make little confessions. Until recently I did not realize how widespread the practice of shaving legs is.
Most Chinese girls don’t have hair on legs and we don’t need to do anything to keep them smooth. Until few months ago I never thought that somewhere else it could be different.
Last year I went to Israel and studied Hebrew language in the special courses for foreigners. There we had students from many different countries: Argentine, Germany, India, Japan, Romania, Russia, Sweden, USA to name just some of them.
One of the students whom I befriended was a girl from Romania. During the break we had a chat about plans for the upcoming weekend and she said that her husband planned to go to the Dead Sea and complained how much she was going to suffer from waxing her legs.
“So why doing it?” – I asked her – “Don’t torture yourself”.
Now it was her turn to be surprised: “Are you kidding? How can one wear a swim-suit without removing hair from legs beforehand?”
At that moment our common classmate – a woman from Hong Kong – joined the chat, and we both demonstrated our legs to her :-) (saying that neither of us used wax).
She only could sadly comment: “It’s so unfair! We are all women, but you don’t have hair at all! Why don’t you have this kind of troubles?”
And this is true. Chinese girls can wear short skirts without ever needing to shave or wax their legs. Generally speaking Asians have less body hair than other races – both females and males. You can sometimes see that even Chinese guys have smooth arms and legs and no hair on their chest.
Few years ago I and my friends went to Tongjing Hot Spring, one of the many great hot springs surrounding Chongqing. This is a very popular place among both Chongqing residents and city’s guests who come here to relax. That day wasn’t an exception and the pools were full of people.
In one of the pools I saw two foreign guys. They were ordinary men and I could not understand why other people wouldn’t stop looking at them (even though trying not to stare in an obvious way). After all, there are many foreigners in Chongqing and they hardly can be a source of prolonged curiosity.
But once I got a chance to pass near them and take a quick peek – I understood the reason. Both guys had extremely hairy chests drawing curious glances from everyone around.
The only reason I am mentioning this story to you is that one should be aware of certain cultural (and racial) differences that do objectively exist. It does not mean that a foreign guy cannot be himself if he wants to date a Chinese girl. There are many factors that define the success of relationship and they are more important than few hairs on the chest (or legs, or any other place :-)). However, first impression is very important and guys should carefully choose the dressing style when heading for the first date with Chinese girl. You know what I mean, but if yet not sure – you can check out the previous article about the dating mistakes to avoid.
Fortunately, people quickly get used to some differences. Recently I could feel it myself during the video chat with one of my friends. She asked me to show her photographs which I took abroad. I began sharing the pictures while continuing to chat with her. Suddenly she stumbled and her eyes opened wide as she seemingly stared at one of the pictures…
“What’s wrong?” – I asked her worryingly – “Did I miss anything? Tell me!”
“Oh my god!” – she almost shouted – “The guy in the picture has such long, thick and black hair on his arms!”.
I couldn’t help myself laughing at her astonishment. But who knows – maybe in the past I would react in the same way.
Constantly learning new things, Crystal Tao