Interesting “discussion” going on in the YouOffendMeYouOffendMyFamily site with “More Proof that Asian Women Hate Asian Men and Love Non-Asian Men“. They quote from “Want to Date an Asian Women? 5 Reasons Why Asian Women Like Non-Asian Men.” :
Asian women desire to be with non Asian guys amost as much as caucasion guys want to be with an Asian women and are the 5 main reasons why…
Because of Hollywood the white male is now prized as the trophy husband. If you look anything like George Clooney, Tom Cruise or Harrison Ford your chances are doubled when it comes to having an Asian woman consider you as a real prize. How many Asian guys are famous in Hollywood? Maybe 3, Bruce Lee, Jet Li, and Jackie Chan.
White males tend to be more physically endowed. Again, how many beefed up looking Asian guys have you seen in real life or TV. There is a much larger number of white guys that have muscle and look like Vin Diesle.
A BIG reason why Asian women love dating non Asian guys is that generally Asian men don’t have so much respect for their women. A caucasion guy is much less likely to have a problem if their Asian girlfriend wants a more modern lifestyle in which she is greatly encouraged to be ambitious or to pursue her own career.
The desire to escape an arranged marriage which is very common in most Asian cultures and she simply might not like the partner that her parents have chosen for her.
She wants to immigrate to an English speaking country like the United States of America. This could definitely be her motivation if she lives in a communist country or a very poor country in which her or her family has no future. This type of reason is also more common of online relationships.
Which was linking to “Mailbag: (Non-Asian) Women Who Love Asian Men” :
But still, if you spend any amount of time doing research on the internet, you’ll find that in the last few years, there have been a lot more sites devoted to Asian male and non-Asian female unions so was Newsweek right? Are perceptions of Asian men changing? Some of our readers certainly think so. Following are some of their responses. [...]
I do know a lot of Asian American guys who have issues with Asian women dating non-Asian men, but who not only support Asian men dating non-Asians, but downright encourage it without seeing any sort of contradiction. [...]
So what do you think? Are Asian men seen as more sexually desirable now? Are there still obstacles or specific issues for Asian guys in getting with non-Asian women? Is there a difference between Asian men dating non-Asians and Asian women dating non-Asians? It’s 2010 and are these issues still even valid or have things progressed beyond them? Share your thoughts below.
This had me thinking of a recent post I read on ChinaSmack -Ode to the Chinese Male; and Lady Laowais Can Have Yellow Fever Too :
The reason why there were disproportionately so few Chinese men with foreign women couples is that the same distinguishing features about Asian people that make Asian women so attractive to foreign men: they’re smaller, softer, and sweeter – are the same qualities that unfortunately render Asian men unattractive to foreign women. [...]
While my Chinese hairdresser agreed, he also proposed, with a smile, that it’s also a case of Chinese men not being into foreign women. [...]
As crudely as she said it, I can’t help but think that for all the foreign women that come to China and turn their noses up at the locals, a healthy mixture of open-mindedness and natural acclimatization would help change their minds. My Polish friend Matty used to think all Chinese people look the same. Once when we were on the Beijing subway he jokingly pushed our Chinese Peruvian friend Anthony back into the crowd of Chinese people, and then said, “Anthony, where are you? I can’t see you!” The bastard. But after two years in China, Matty says this isn’t the case for him anymore.
Interesting comments over there as well.
Going back, the ChinaSmack’s diaspora project has quite alot on the issue with posts like – Asian Women with White Men Suck?
I keep a blog where I’ve occasionally touched upon my type of interracial relationship, particularly in two posts, The Asian Girlfriend Complex, and Ending Bias against White Male and Asian Female Couples?.
I wrote these posts because I am very much aware of the negative associations (of Group A) that are often attached to my type of pairing.
Compared to many Asian women I know, I’m perhaps a little too self-aware (or oversensitive) of what my relationship represents.
The whole interratial topic has been discussed a number on times on LoveLoveChina with the recent post being – Chinese Women Western Men Celebrity Couples :
Statistics claim that the most common pattern among interracial couples is the one where White men are married to Asian women. [...] I decided to do some search and it resulted in the list of 10 couples in which Chinese woman is dating or married to a non-Chinese man, and at least one of them is a well-known personality.
So, it seems like there are two lines of posts. One dealing with why Asian women are dating non-Asian men. The other whether (and why) non-Asian women date Asian men. Both go into the core of cross cultural relationships, stereotypes and biases, but look at it from a slightly different perspective asking slightly different questions.
No conclusion, just rambling thoughts. Would be happy to hear from you on this and the comparison or connection between the two “topics”.