So uh… what’s the discussion? Guess I’ll just comment on the pairings discussed in your post.

Asian male – white female isn’t as common, no. I agree some of that has to do with physical characteristics. But there are many attractive asian men, even to Western standards. I’ve always said I would want to look like Chow Yun Fat if I were Asian… I seriously wish I could. If I had to make the hypothetical choice between looking like how I do now and Chow Yun Fat, I’d choose the latter. The guy looks like a badass. Anyway, my mancrush on him aside, I think it also has a lot to do with ‘confidence’. Chinese men tend to be more shy. Shy people get less chicks. In the West at least. I should know. I think a lot of Asian guys bail out when it comes to people outside their race because they have self-esteem issues. The idea that white women simply aren’t attracted to Asian men is something of a self-fulfilling prophecy as well, isn’t it? An Asian man thinks this, this Asian man doesn’t bother with white women. Voila, white women aren’t attracted to Asian men. Nonsense. More effort, more results.

Why asian women date white men. Well if you live in the West that’s generally going to be your main source of men, isn’t it? Strength in numbers. That and the white-men-glorifying aspects that always get mentioned. As for Chinese or Asian women living in Asia, it could be any number of factors. Financial considerations (which is my euphemism for golddigging), exoticism, idealisation (The Chinese men I dated suck, ergo Chinese men suck, but these Hollywood films paint a good picture of Western men blabla sun and rainbows), seeking men of progressive values, or a desire of ‘something new’. Who the crap knows. Depends on the individual in the end, really?

Personally I am just a sucker for foreign women. I psycho-analyze myself on this regularly. Negative and positive conclusions arise. Morally it doesn’t concern me. It doesn’t really matter where from (although certain groups have more relevance on my attractiveness scale). If there are forums for Irish, German, French, Swedish women I’d go there too. Realistically given my current situation I just come across Chinese women more. And it’s a more documented subject.

It’s been statistically proven that of all the racial/gender divides, Asian women are more likely to have a partner of a different race when presented with a wide selection. All you need to prove this is look at census reports in countries with mixed populations. If you’re only looking at a homogeneous place like china or Japan or Korea, etc. then that’s like asking a desert nomad why they don’t eat sushi everyday. It’s all about what’s available.

Yellow” Fever” is a ridiculous hold-over from colonial thinking that doesn’t apply to day at all. In fact when faced with the statistics what you actually see (despite match.com’s “study” sorry, but I don’t really trust a website centered around exaggerating numbers to increase membership) is although DO tend prefer their own race in a mate, men are almost as likely to prefer their own race as well. Ex: Caucasian men and women marry other Caucasians 91% of the time!  This is actually the highest numbers (including African women marrying African men 91% of the time) of all racial/gender trends.

The most open of all men are Hispanic men who only married Hispanic women 74% of the time (Hispanic women stand at 75% of the time).

Guess which group blows all the rest of them away? Asian women marry Asian men only 61% of the time! However that’s only for newly immigrated Asian women. For native-born (in the U.S.) Asian women, that number drops to 49% married to Asian men. In fact, native-born Asian women are the only racial/gender role to marry other races MORE than their own race.

Of course, that’s only marriage in the US how about co-habitation? Well surprise surprise less than 45% of Asian women have ONLY had an Asian boyfriend or fiancee. IE: 55% have dated or been engaged or lived with a man of a different race.

In china there’s little to no accurate date about inter-racial relationships. It’s especially helpful that the only acknowledged races in china are “chinese” and “waiguoren”….. However just going on anecdotal evidence, once a chinese girl has dated someone from “waiguo” she’s never accepted by another chinese man (unless she hides her past that is).

So what does it all mean? Looking purely at the statistics available, I’d have to say that Asian women are the ones pro-actively making the decision to find a non-Asian partner. 31% marry a Caucasian man (that accounts for about 2% of the Caucasian men), 3% marry African men and 4% marry Hispanic men. 

As I concluded here: http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_721fb3750100xvio.html 

“it’s not the Caucasian male with “Yellow Fever” and “Pedophile tendencies”, but rather Asian females with “White Fever” and “Western” tastes that the world needs to think about”

I know many Chinese women in China… all of them except for one who recently married a Chinese man, another who volunteered to me that she would not marry a westerner, and 2 others whose opinion I am not aware of.. have indicated to me that they would never marry (again if already married/divorced) a Chinese man. This is from a mix of rural, small and larger cities all over China. I also hear this opinion in other Asian countries.

I am an Asian man and I’d say 80% of my relationships have been with white women. I love Asian women as well but most of the women around me are white. And the more Asian women into white men the better, more white girls for me :)